Why Did Everyone Gasp When I Passed Food with Chopsticks?

Another “Death Sign” is sticking your chopsticks vertically into a bowl of rice. This is called “Tsukitate-bashi” and is only done at Buddhist altars as an offering to the dead. If you leave your chopsticks standing up in your rice bowl at a restaurant, it looks like you are offering the meal to a ghost.

If you want to share food, place the piece on a small plate and pass the plate. Or, ask the staff for “Torizara” (small sharing plates). Respecting these chopstick manners shows that you understand the culture and prevents an awkward silence at the table.